Working Through Doubts & Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship "Dear Leah, Is a cheater always a cheater? I’m in the relationship rn It took me awhile to forgive him but I’m afraid he will do it again. Can a relationship go back to normal it’s been about...
What is Ghosting & Why Does It Happen? This week's Relationships Q&A comes from Rosemary in the Sanity & Self Community and is about being ghosted. Dear Leah, Am I overreacting? Met a guy online … Everything was hot from the beginning, but a month later...
Incorporating or Discovering Your Faith Through Self-Care Everyone who knows me personally knows how much of a thrill-seeker I am. I’ve ziplined in some crazy locations, gone skydiving and have ridden every rollercoaster within a 200-mile radius. And although some of...
Should Cheating Always be a Dealbreaker? Dear Leah, Am I stupid for even considering ever taking back the person who cheated on me? I love him and care for him so much and if I see a change within the next year I might consider but rn I told him to get it together and...
No Matter What You Call It, Your Anxiety is Stressing You Out Choosing an Anxiety Label that Feels Right There is no denying that we all carry many labels with us throughout our life. We carry the label of daughter, wife, mother, student, employee, business owner,...
Change Is Not Your Enemy Years ago, I had been a stay-at-home mother in Germany. My children were young, and I had settled into a life that was survivable. I was a military spouse at the time, and people needed me to be there for them. So I had given up the working...
New Year's Resolutions for a New Year, Your BEST You. You are probably familiar with the playful phrase, “New Year, New Me.” I myself used this phrase in the past but as I have done my own healing and growth, it no longer serves me or seems appropriate. When the New...
The Self-Care Women Deserve… What Does That Mean? Why do we, as women, deserve self-care? Why do we deserve to make ourselves feel better, to be better, stronger? We’ve got a track record that shows us how many mistakes we’ve made, how many times we’ve said we’re not...
Choosing to Date With Intention Dear Leah, Will I ever be attracted to a good man? I am quite picky on dating apps before I meet someone and I’m sure to only meet guys I’m really excited about. The dates go really well and at first they are romantic and attentive but...
6 Steps to Reconnect With Your Inner Badass Self So I recently got dumped from a long term relationship. I thought we were going to get married, I thought he was the one. I’m currently 29, no kids and no partner anymore. I’m so anxious about my age. I feel so old and...
Take This Sleep-Deprived Quiz and Find Out! Did you know that at least 10% of the population suffers from chronic insomnia and feel sleep deprived? I know I used to. I’d always be able to get to sleep, but then I’d wake up around 3:00am, tossing and turning the rest...
Is Your Relationship Healthy or Unhealthy? We don’t talk enough about unhealthy relationships. While we are acknowledging and addressing domestic violence more and more and seeing a larger scale effort to provide more education and resources to women about abuse,...
Put the “O” Back in Orgasm, The “I” Back in Climax, And the “U” Back in You What if experiencing an orgasm could be as easy as singing that catchy song we learned to remember our vowels in Kindergarten? Well, buckle up! We're going to talk about how it can be. All...
When Worry About Money Impacts Emotional Health I moved into my first apartment in my early twenties filled with so much expectation and pride. My mother and I spent weeks before my ‘official’ move-in shopping for all the must-have items from kitchen to bathroom to...
The Benefits of ASMR Include Body Tingles, Euphoria, and Brain Orgasms (Oh My!) What is ASMR? If you shrugged your shoulders, you may be surprised to hear that you have likely experienced ASMR at some point in your life. When The Joy of Painting was still on public...
Have You Outgrown Your Friendships? I wish I could promise that you will never outgrow your friendships. That the laughter and future plans your friends made in those bonding moments would last forever. That you would all look back one day with smiles and hugs as you...
How a Simple Evening Ritual Can Improve Your Sleep Are you struggling with sleep? I understand as this was me too. I spent many years battling insomnia, and so sleep is something I take seriously. When I was not sleeping well, it impacted every area of my life. I was...
How to Grieve, Process & Empower Yourself Post-Breakup Coping with a breakup can be incredibly challenging, but even more so when you are totally blindsided by it. In some relationships the writing was on the wall, maybe because you started to drift apart, have...
The Hidden Stress Reliever You've Been Ignoring Nothing clears my mind and rejuvenates my soul like a brisk walk. And, I’m not talking about a power walk. By brisk, I mean cool. Or cold. Or near freezing in some instances. We...
4 Tips on Setting Boundaries with Your Family The holidays are a time to come together with those we love. Which is also why they can be a pretty stressful time for those of us going back home to see the people who we often have unconditional love for, but many other...
Be Sure To Be Thinking With the Right Head With the Fifty Shades of Grey series hitting theaters a couple years ago, it’s hard not to hear about people’s theories on sexuality anywhere from how to spice up your sex life to being more kinky in the bedroom to...
Why We Settle for a Booty Call It’s 8:42 pm. You check your phone for the 5th time to see if you’ve missed any calls or text messages… nope! You check all your social media pages to see if you’ve got a message… nope! After settling for a ‘Netflix & Chill’ night in...
The Holiday Season is Also Breakup Season Along with being the holiday season, it’s also “Breakup Season.” According to Facebook and their data, breakups trend around this time of the year (which of course also happens to be the most inconvenient time of the year to...
How to Find Your Sunshine in the Darkness Ah yes, it’s that time of year again. Leaves have fallen to the ground, there is a crisp chill in the air, lovers are cozying up in bed to a soppy rom-com, and seasonal depression is in full swing. ‘Tis the season, as they...
Make it Your “No”vember and Say “F*ck Yes” to Yourself Is it time to say no to people, places and things that have been toxic in your life in order to say F*ck Yes! to yourself? You are not alone. It is common for women to put themselves on the back burner in order to...
It’s Time to Redefine Self-Care At Sanity & Self, we’ve adopted a new definition for self-care and we think the whole world...
How a Gratitude Journal Impacts Mental Health, Focus, and Happiness “In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” --David Steindl-Rast Do you ever feel like you want to be more positive, but things...
3 Simple Ways to Practice Gratitude Every Day The word gratitude evokes images of smiling, counting our blessings, hugging our friends, doling out compliments, and saying “thank you” for what we have. Research has even indicated that practicing gratitude can improve...
Conquer Insomnia and Sleep Better It’s nearly midnight, and I cannot go to sleep. I’ve laid in bed for three hours trying to count sheep and slow my brain down, but Bo Peep and her posse of rams keep getting run over by thoughts of things I forgot to do today, and all...
8 Ways To Be Single & Happy Single & Dating with a Plan I started “actively” dating when I was 22. Confident and hopeful, I was excited to date and meet the love of my life. I thought I would date 3, maybe 4 guys, and then find my person, get married...
Never Meditated? Three Reasons to Give Meditation a Try Today Everyone is always talking about how great meditation is, but have you ever wondered if it lives up to the hype? Me too! Before I was an everyday meditator, I used to think meditation was...
What if Managing Anxiety Is As Easy as Choosing What You Care About? When anxiety strikes it can be difficult to remember what to do to bring it to a halt. Anxiety is an all-encompassing feeling that can range from difficulty to breathe, insomnia, and fear of doing...
My New Attitude Toward Impostor Syndrome What IS Impostor Syndrome? If you’re not familiar with the term, it’s a condition that derives from uncertainty and lack of self-confidence. People who have impostor syndrome may be perfectly confident in one aspect of their...
Identify & Manage Your Stressors Feeling stressed, burnt out, and overwhelmed? You’re not alone. Women consistently report higher stress levels than men, resulting in a “stress gap” that leaves many women feeling drained and depleted. Not to mention looking...
Be an Empowered Woman What if instead of focusing on being a people pleaser, you pleased yourself first? If you stopped pouring all of your energy into other people and started to show up in your own life for yourself each and every day? What would happen? How would...
From Feeling Lonely to Feeling Connected If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I’m lonely,” you’re ironically not alone. Everyone has experienced a lonely day, or a lonely time in their life at some point in their lives—even people in long-term relationships or...
Grow Confidence and Self-Love What Crushed Your Self-Confidence? Sometimes life has a way of kicking us when we’re already down. Maybe you went through a tough breakup or lost a job you loved (even if all you loved about it was the paycheck). Sometimes we all...
Is Unhealed Trauma Impacting Your Life? Have you ever experienced having an emotional response that seems out of proportion to a situation? Or maybe you’ve found it very difficult to trust people, or even difficult to trust your own instincts about someone or...
Are you in a toxic relationship? Whether your relationship is long-term or new, there may be times that leave you wondering if your relationship would be deemed a healthy relationship, or an unhealthy relationship. Do you ever wonder if your relationship is normal? If...
7 Signs Of Gaslighting In Relationships & How to Handle It Have you ever wondered if you might be going crazy when talking to your partner or significant other? You may be experiencing gaslighting. Gaslighting in relationships is always a form of manipulation. It...